I took some cold cuts out of the fridge. My mother-in-law says it’s a waste not to use them, but they look bad to me. What should I do?

This is a tricky situation! Food safety is paramount, but you also want to be respectful of your mother-in-law. Here’s a breakdown of how to handle it:

1. Prioritize Food Safety:

• Trust Your Senses: If the cold cuts look or smell “bad” to you, that’s a significant red flag. Trust your instincts. Discarding potentially spoiled food is never a waste; it’s preventing food poisoning.
• Check for Signs of Spoilage:
  • Slimy texture: This is a major indicator of bacterial growth.
  • Off odor: Any sour, musty, or ammonia-like smell is a warning sign.  
  • Discoloration: Gray, green, or other unusual colors indicate spoilage.
  • Sticky residue: this is also a very bad sign.
• Consider the Time: How long have they been in the fridge? Even if they don’t look obviously spoiled, cold cuts have a relatively short shelf life.  

2. Communicate Respectfully:

• Explain Your Concerns: Don’t just say they’re “bad.” Explain your specific concerns: “They feel a little slimy,” or “They have a slightly sour smell.”
• Emphasize Food Safety: Frame it as a matter of preventing illness. “I’m worried about food poisoning, and I’d rather be safe than sorry.”
• Offer Alternatives: If you’re concerned about waste, suggest using other leftovers or preparing a fresh meal.
• Be Diplomatic: Avoid blaming or criticizing. A simple, “I’m just not comfortable eating these,” can go a long way.

3. Potential Compromises (Use with Caution):

• If the cold cuts are borderline and you’re feeling pressured:
  • If they only have a little bit of slime, and you are very pressured, you could cook them thoroughly. High heat will kill most bacteria. But be very aware that this is a risk.  
  • If they are to be cooked, they must be cooked to a high internal temperature.
• If you are feeling very pressured, and they are not terribly bad:
  • You could offer to cook them for her, and then she can decide if she wants to eat them. This removes you from the liability of someone getting sick.

Example Conversation:

“Mom, I appreciate you not wanting to waste food, but these cold cuts look a little off to me. They feel a bit slimy, and I’m worried about getting sick. Maybe we could use the leftover [other food] instead, or I could make us something fresh?”

Key Takeaway:

Your health and safety are more important than avoiding perceived waste. Be polite but firm in your decision.